Perfectionism



It takes time to get to know someone, and getting to know my clients is an important part of what I do. It is important because the better I understand my client and what works for them, the more effectively I can help them get organized.


When a client and I begin to develop solutions to their organizing challenges, I have to emphasize that there IS no perfect answer. What works really well for one client might not for another, and in moving forward, we may have to make adjustments.


This is important because I have worked with people who have struggled with perfectionism. Many have gone through numerous "self help" books, organizing products, and services before they call me, all in pursuit of the "perfect" organizing solution.


"Perfectionism, in psychology, is a broad personality style characterized by a person's concern with striving for flawlessness and perfection and is accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations." (Source-Wikipedia)


I have learned throughout the years what "perfectionist" traits have worked well for me, and which have not. Following is a list of 10 common traits of perfectionists, with a small corrective statement following each.


All-or-Nothing Thinking

The saying "don't throw the baby out with the bathwater" is a common phrase used with people who tend to think this way. Progress is progress, and should not be considered a failure.


Highly Critical

Thinking critically is far more important than being highly critical. Recognizing the positive and the negative goes far in motivating behaviors. Turn off the judgement.




Pushed by Fear

Being pushed is different than being motivated to move forward. Understand what causes the fear, and address it.


Unrealistic Standards

Setting goals is helpful for many, but realize success along the way. Goal that aren't attainable can be more damaging than beneficial.


Focused on Results

Focusing simply on results doesn't acknowledge the skills and growth that are attained along the way. Enjoy the journey.


Depressed by Unmet Goals

Wallowing in the negative has no real mental health benefit, and builds more obstacles than are necessary.


Fear of Failure

Don't let fear stop you before you even start. Taking one step at a time, and acknowledging small steps towards reaching the goal, can help you avoid this quandry.


Procrastination

Some people find great success in leaving things until the last minute, but many would argue that the stress and discomfort from putting things off isn't worth it.


Defensiveness

Valuable information can be found in the strangest places, and building walls by being defensive is one solid way to miss out on a wonderful learning opportunity.


Low Self Esteem

Oddly enough, perfectionists, who often see great success, most often lack self-esteem, a result of all of their mental pitfalls. Give credit where credit is due!


Getting organized isn't a perfect process, and neither is hiring a professional organizer that will work for you. This is one reason I offer a free consultation before beginning any work. If you are ready to schedule, please give me a call, or reach out with any questions.


Until then, be good to yourself.